The Duchess of Sussex, Meghan Markle, has revealed that she had a miscarriage in July this year.
In a personal essay written for the New York Times, Markle said she felt a sharp cramp while she was changing the diaper for her 18-month-old son, Archie, before dropping to the floor with him in her arms with a sense that “something was not right.”
“I knew, as I clutched my firstborn child, that I was losing my second,” she wrote. “Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable grief, experienced by many but talked about by few,” she wrote.
She said that she wanted to share her story to change the unwarranted shame and taboos around talking about miscarriages. “When one person speaks truth, it gives license for all of us to do the same,” she wrote.
“In being invited to share our pain, together we take the first steps toward healing.”
“Sitting in a hospital bed, watching my husband’s heart break as he tried to hold the shattered pieces of mine, I realized that the only way to begin to heal is to first ask, “Are you OK?“, she wrote.
She said that even though loss and pain has plagued everyone of us in 2020, we are “more connected than ever because of all we have individually and collectively endured this year” and urged people to commit to asking others, “Are you OK?”